SUPPRESSION IS BAD

In our quest to live a happy, meaningful and fulfilling life, we need to look at dynamics of human mind. How it leads into the field of greater possibilities and what are the pitfalls we need to avoid, so that our mind does not turn into our greatest enemy. One of the worst thing we can do to ourselves is suppression. We suppress ourselves in various ways, sometimes we are not aware, other times we think that it is the way of life. When we are not in touch with ourselves, we deny our needs.

Suppression happen in many way, sometimes obvious, sometimes it is subtle.

1. To fit in the culture, we stop listening to our inner voice.
2. Sometimes we just follow trends, set up by society without questioning any goodness of it.
3. We compromise with situations and accept instead of going for what we want.
4. Accepting authority, without questioning status quo.
5. Sometimes to project the self- image of being good, we compromise on being authentic.

All these situations leads to powerlessness. We  compromise, when we feel lack, when we feel not enough.

Worst is when you are in a dissatisfied relationship. The relationship of compromise where there is no love and care but is based on mutual benefit or single sided benefit. When relationship is single sided where other partner is taking your advantage, it is difficult to recognise because you do not have clear picture and go on suppressing yourself until you have tolerated for a longer period and now situation is that there is anger in you which you cannot express due to powerlessness. This anger keeps on building in you because you are holding onto it and there is no outlet to express it. One day you are going to explode. It is important to address any dis-satisfaction by communicating your situation and taking needful action.

Another is dis-satisfaction in your job. You are just carrying on for the money sake, cannot leave it because it pays your bills, give you security and you are used to it. There may be many unique talents in you, but you are not pursuing them because you feel unsure. It takes courage to walk the path you wish to take, listening to your intuition and making forward path by taking small steps in that direction. Going for what you want and doing what you love, it will bring in much needed energy and enthusiasm.

How to avoid suppression, which happen in many ways:

1. Being mindful of your life situation, your emotions and thoughts.
2. Being aware of your needs and making sure that your needs are fulfilled. You are treated with respect, honour, love and care.
3. The moment somebody crosses your  personal boundaries, you need to take action, communicate with them. If communication does not bring result take more powerful action, so that message gets clear that it is unacceptable.
4. Sometime, situations are so demanding that it pressurises to do what you do not want to do, so, ask yourself- What you really want and go by it. Never, compromise, Universe will adjust according to your will and willpower.
5. Challenge status quo, but with right attitude and right frame of mind. It is to improve the situation not satisfy your ego.
6. Question the trends of the society, what good they are to you and society. Find answer and follow it.
7. Stand out, if need be, do not follow the crowd because others are following it. Walk alone, if need be.
8. Stand up for principles you live for, even if whole world is against you. But be convinced that what you are following is the right thing to do.

When you stand up for yourself, there I tremendous power in it, by crossing all odds what you gain is real you and it is powerful.

LIVING INSIDE OUT

Life is about inner works. It flow from cause inside to produce effect outside. Most of the people are stuck in a reactive mode, there is something happening outside in their life and in order to survive there is reaction from our compulsive mind, on which we have no power. We are reactive to the situations and thus create our life unconsciously.

There is more powerful way of being than being in a survival mode. There is survival instinct which comes first in times of crisis. It is of compulsive nature, you are operating from mind which is powered by reactions, beliefs, doubts, fears or scarcity mode. These all emotions get flooded in our minds, as we live our life, gain experiences good or bad, influence from people, family, books, movies and activities we engage in. Habits play crucial part, all good habits are formed in the formative year of child development, like eating healthy food, exercising, reading books, not engaging in harmful activities like smoking, alcohol etc. Being honest, being humane and respectful of life and living creatures and being conscious. Once this habit of being conscious develops, it is hard to have any of the damaging habits. Being conscious means that there is gap between you and compulsive mind. You will not be overpowered by the compulsive mind when you are mindful.

When you start getting mindful of your thoughts, emotions, motivations and sensations in the body, you are in a powerful position. You are out of compulsive nature of your mind, now you have power to respond to any challenges you face. Your mind is calmer and hence it provides creative solution in such cases. When you are conscious, you are in a power to change course of your life by taking better decisions. There comes a point when you have mastery over your mind and you can direct your life, the way you want it to be. That is living inside to outside. You are not ruled by outside compulsions to take actions but you decide which course of action to take.

When you are conscious, you do not take short cuts to achieve your goals. You take legitimate path and wait  for due course of time for success to follow. That success is not authentic and has no value where your core ethics are compromised to achieve your goals. We feel compelled to achieve worldly success because that is the way our success is measured. You feel the need to validate yourself  by achieving numbers and figures in the success list. Sometimes, if you look at the live of some celebrities they have achieved great success in the world but it does not bring happiness in their inner life, Why? Because outer success has not been married to inner values. You may be living a very rich outer life but inner life, life of spirit, which matter to you the most is very poor.

Your inner life is rich, when in due course of your life, you have built it on your core values and with test of time you have lived with integrity and not compromised on your ethics in challenging times. when you stick to your core ethics and principles of humanity, you gain immeasurable self worth. A self worthy  person is equally concerned about other lives and will not do anything which is against the principles of humanity. A self worthy person  lives a richer, happier and healthier life. The more generous, friendly or helpful you are , you generate that kind of energy inside and around you and that keeps you happy and healthy.

The stress which is very common these days is because people have shifted from being simple to complex. The outer life is quite different from inner life and that is the cause of conflict and stress. We have grown our egos which is false self and have shrunken  our heart. Our outer life is grand outside but we are unable to experience it because we have shrunken our heart. If we start living from inside out, no matter what outer  compulsions are, live the principles of life, care for each other and the world will be a better place to live.