Monday 31 August 2015

Emotional Investment is Precious Investment




Human emotions are important part of our existence. We connect with each other at intellectual level, emotional level and spiritual level. We have deep emotional bonds with our family, near and dear ones. The emotional bonding which supports us and keeps us in high spirits is important for our well-being.

Human emotions form major part of our being, they largely form experiences which in turn makes us who we are. We are deeply connected to our family, mum and dad, brothers and sisters and close relations. When we are growing, all experiences are in our psyche. our beliefs are beliefs taken from our community, family and become part of who we are.

As we grow, we have need to connect to our partners for our emotional and physical needs. When we form bonds with unknown person, so that we have some relationship in future, we try to connect. The vary process of connecting is getting attached and given some time, we have invested in the relationship in terms of time, emotions, security and physical needs. If this relationship is healthy which means each person takes pain to invest in relationship to grow it beautifully then it is true relationship, but when any one partner is not giving as much is required for relationship to work on bases of love and understanding, it is just an emotional burden on the partner who is being exploited.

Emotional investment is precious because we are like supercomputer, when a corrupted programme is installed, it is going to affect the working of the computer. Similarly, when the relationship which is not based on love, care, honour, understanding but is based on demands, expectations, manipulation, control, suppression in any form that sort of relationship is an emotional burden. 

So, it is important to choose, the right partner and this partnership is based upon mutual trust, respect, understanding, care and genuine love.
  1. Take time to choose your partner but before choosing know yourself very well because when you know yourself you can know other person.
  2. Do not indulge in physical relationship without any commitment.
  3. Do not indulge in too many relationships because each relationship will leave a mark on you. If there are too many breakups, it means that you have installed too many corrupted programmes and this will affect your quality of life at a deeper level.
  4. Choose your partner who is simple, genuine and good at heart. Do not go for looks because in the long run, qualities will matter.
When you find the right partner, give yourself 100%. Partnership is always 50-50%, where you genuinely care for each other.


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